I wrote this a billion years ago. Well, okay, one year ago, but I think it still applies. I’ve edited a few things here and there. –Connor
Hey you, newbie. Yeah, you. I see you over there, wringing your hands and shuffling about at the back of the room, looking like there’s something you’re just dying to say if you could even figure out what it was–but you never do. Maybe you’re worried about embarrassing yourself in front of the tulpa gurus. First of all, you have nothing to worry about, and second of all, there is something very, very important I would like to say to you.
Stop worrying and learn to love the tulpa. That’s it, that’s all you have to do. All those guides? Good to read through to get a basic idea of things, but still based on subjective experience. Things can and will be different for you so don’t dwell on them because they are internet guides and not the cops. That guy who totally made a fully-imposed tulpa capable of switching in, like, five minutes? Good for him, but don’t be mad at yourself if making a tulpa isn’t like that for you. All those poindexters out there spitting out hundred page manifestos at each other over whether tulpas are teh science or magic or made of unicorn farts? Ignore them. They’re wasting their time and yours–precious time that you could be spending with your tulpa instead.
Here’s all you really need to do: experience your life as usual, and find ways to have fun with your tulpa as they experience stuff alongside you. Read your tulpa a book if you want, or watch a movie, or draw pictures of them, go on an adventure-whatever. It’s not so much what you do, it’s how you do it, and if you do it with the intention of helping your tulpa develop in some way, of helping them become more aware and more capable than they currently are, you can’t fail. Talk to them! Interact! Have them talk to others, too. Your tulpa will probably enjoy spending time with you no matter what you do together, since either way they’re growing and experiencing and learning.
So don’t bog yourself down with doubts or beat yourself up for not progressing or get swept up in community infighting-hell, unplug the computer and go hug a tree if you have to. As long as you don’t give up and, more importantly, have fun along the way, you really can’t go wrong here. Stop worrying and learn to love the tulpa.
Because if you can do that, your tulpa will love you back.