Something we realized just recently is that it’s easy for the host to confuse their feeling of guilt with their tulpa’s feelings. This guide had stuff about learning to distinguish your own “essence” from your tulpa’s: I want you to listen to yourself. What is going on inside you? Can you perceive the flowing thoughts? Some people find this step difficult, but in the end, everyone gets the hang of it. There really is not much to explain – as hard as it is, you have to figure it out yourself what it means to listen to yourself. If you are successful, you should be able to make out the thoughts and their individual signature. You can trace them back. When you successfully trace back a thought, it will normally lead to yourself. Your own essence. […] You probably have started a Tulpa and wonder about its unresponsiveness or are worried about parroting. In that case, you are at the right address. 1) What is your essence like? – Imagine it. 2) Search your thoughts for yourself and look out for an alien presence If you find an alien presence – that is your Tulpa Now I’ve often felt guilty about things like not giving Meri and Miksu enough attention, or trying to make them into something they actually aren’t. But this morning, I was experiencing the same, and then I realized that, when I had a particular image of what I’d like to do with them, and I felt that they didn’t like it… that feeling didn’t actually come from them. It came from me, traced back to my own essence. It was me being guilty about, I’m not even sure what. But whatever it was, that guilt was blocking my connection to them, so that I couldn’t hear what they actually thought about the idea I had for them. We’re still not sure of what their opinion about it is, but at least it’s helpful to know that they might like it after all. (we’ve postponed further investigation of this until I’m more rested).