Creation – A Theoretical Outline
Version 0.90: to be updated soon with more details on forms, etc and specific exercises, as well as some reorganization.
This is, as the title says, the outline of what will later be adapted into a more full-fleshed guide. While there are some suggested exercises provided for example, this guide is largely theoretical in that it is focused more upon the whys of creation practices.
For full disclosure, we will state that no one in our system has created a tulpa—however, the methods we have used to improve our own visualization, independence, etc have helped many tulpamancers, and the creation methods we provide for example here have been used by writers and daydreamers to inadvertently create tulpas and tulpamancers we know to deliberately create tulpas. In other words, the information we provide here has all been backed by tulpamancers—we have simply compiled it and summarized it.
So, to begin. How does one create a tulpa? To answer the question in the broadest and most certain sense, we will cite Seven of Keiretsu's foolproof four-step guide:
- Read all the guides.
- Throw out all the guides.
- Think to and at your eventual tulpa, experiment to find what works for you until your brain catches on and responds.
- Enjoy your tulpa.
And now, to elaborate.
Myths and Confusion About Creation
You do not need any of the following in order to create a tulpa.
- A mindscape/wonderland/innerworld.
- A particular body age.
- A knack for dissociation.
- A strong mind's-eye.
- A knack for writing.
- A genetic predisposition to anything.
They can help, but they aren't required.
What you do need:
Persistence. You are not required to do any of the following in order to create a tulpa:
Assign a starting form.
Assign a starting personality.
Do things in a certain order.
Never fall asleep when forcing.
Have only happy thoughts when forcing.
Be a perfect person. What you do need to do:
Be persistent. Regarding Guides
They are guides, not rules. Suggestions, in essence—accounts of what worked for that particular tulpamancer. They are not absolutes. Every brain is different, and operates differently on a subjective level. Thus, a method that works quickly for one individual may be excruciatingly painful and slow for you.
For example, take an individual who thinks in images but is poor at conversation, versus an individual who is excellent at language but has poor mind's-eye vision. The first individual may benefit from an approach using visualization to build a tulpa (e.g. visualizing a tulpa as a ball of light, and sending “traits” in the form of colored lights into the ball), while the second individual may benefit more from writing out hypothetical conversations with the tulpa (and parroting is a valid approach to creation, mind). Swap those approaches, though, and each individual may experience difficulty and frustration with the method that worked so well for the other.
So if there's so much variability in brains, what's the point of guides? As said earlier, they are suggestions. Starting points, to give you ideas on how you might approach creation. Play around with all the methods mentioned, tweak them, do so until you settle upon one that works—one that, though it might not give you instant results (there's likely no method that does that), still feels intuitive and natural to you. Play to your strengths and be creative.
Some forcing method suggestions:
- Create a “memory palace” and walk your tulpa through it, explaining what's in every corner.
- Write out conversations/what-if scenarios/character questionnaires with or as your tulpa. (Again, parroting is not inherently bad for creation.)
- Create a mindscape while explaining the process.
- Go to the nitty-gritty details. Things like your tulpa's favorite color, and why it's their favorite color. (For concerns about assigning a tulpa a personality, see here. If you're still worried, you can say, “I think this would be your favorite color...”)
- Narrate, narrate, narrate. Which brings us to... Be Persistent
This is where many tulpamancers fail. It isn't enough just to have a method that's intuitive to you. You also have to be persistent with it.
This does not mean active forcing for hours straight every single day. Do not neglect physical life matters to force. Also, do not worry about missing a day or two. Your tulpa isn't going to fade so easily.
A lot of tulpamancers fuss about whether they're “doing it right”. Honestly, you'd have to try or be very oblivious in order to “do it wrong” (e.g. being abusive in forcing and insulting your tulpa for not responding). The best thing to do is to go ahead and try whatever method instead of worrying. Worrying takes away time from forcing. Keep in mind that if your tulpa's not happy with something, they'll be able to let you know.
There's no guaranteed time for your first response. It can be a week, a day, a month, or a year. Many first responses are fairly vague—a head pressure, a fleeting but sudden emotion, a presence—and no one can say for certain if those responses are your tulpa or not. However, the good thing is that regardless if it is them or not, your way forward is still the same—treat them as if they're already there, and keep talking to them. Even if they're not there (also something no one can confirm for you), they will eventually be there regardless as long as you keep it up. For the worried, here's an overview of why in the majority of cases you should treat ambiguous responses as coming from your tulpa.
And even after you get something you think could be a response, don't get complacent. Treat it as if it came from them, but keep talking to them, keep thinking to and at them. Don't fall into the trap of thinking you're done the moment you get a head pressure. We've seen tulpamancers fall into this trap and thus stall their progress significantly.
I will say, though, that if they talk and act independently, and do so consistently (as in, they have a persistent memory and a sense of self), that pretty much means they're there. Self-defining phenomenon. The advice in the above paragraphs apply to vague happenings like head pressure and presences.
Again, tl;dr: Think to and at your eventual tulpa until your brain catches on and responds. If you're blank on things to discuss, here's some ideas:
- Talk about personal matters and what's going on in life with you.
- Talk about the things you'd like to do once your tulpa is aware, with your tulpa.
- Talk about the subjects that interest you and why they do.
- Talk about your routine, the things you like and dislike. And you don't always have to talk. Hanging out and enjoying their (theoretical) presence also works well.
So You've Got a Tulpa
Let's say you keep this up, and now your tulpa is able to respond persistently, coherently, and freely. Congratulations! What's next?
That's up to you&. However, we and many tulpamancers have found that one of the things that helps most is allowing a tulpa to develop their own sense of self. Recall the comments I had earlier on personality. The personality and sense of self of a host or singlet develops not by tacking on traits (“you're a happy person”, etc), but through experiences. Tulpas are no different.
Allow your tulpa freedom to explore. Let them talk to people outside the head on their own if they want, without censoring them (but do teach them civility, responsibility, and basic social niceties first). (Heck, give them a subaccount here, or a blog.) Let them remodel part or all of the mindscape to their desires. Let them find subjects that interest them and let them read about them. Let them find hobbies, whether in the mindscape or outside. You don't have to go whole hog doormat and say, binge drink just because your tulpa wants to (remember, its your body and life, too), but you can still give them a lot of freedom, more than many tulpamancers think to do. Remember, at this point, you're not dealing with “just” a mental construct anymore. You're dealing with an entity who has their own selfhood. Allowing them to develop themselves via experiencing the world will do much more than sitting them down in a mental corner and telling them how independent they are/should be, just as with a physical person.
And learn to relax when they do so, trust them, understand their form of realness.
Now, go forth and force.
— by Falah and Rain